“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” –John C. Maxwell

It is so easy to feel stuck in the routine of life. For example, Monday through Friday from 6:15 a.m. until 7:59 a.m. I am in what feels like an Indianapolis 500 race against the clock to get two little boys up dressed, fed, prepared, and dropped off at school before 8:00 a.m. By the way, if I pass you on the road during these times, please forgive me for whatever offense I may have committed, I’m just singularly focused on my immediate mission. After I’ve managed to get the boys to school, I am able to take a moment and enjoy a cup of chai, before fully engaging in my day and what all that brings. At 2:45 p.m. I’m sitting in carpool to pick up one son, we run errands together until 4:00 p.m. when I go back to school again to pick up the other son after his study hall. Then, provided there are no other obligations to attend, we all head back home for the nightly routine of homework, dinner, housecleaning, bath times, preparing for next day, and if I’m lucky a long hot bath before I pass out for the night and do it all over again. My weekends, needless to say, are sacred.

This routine that I am in for this season of my life is not unique to me, many women share this daily experience. Likewise, many women, like myself, are quite content in this pace and find little moments, like golden nuggets, to cherish and appreciate. In fact, my family and the freedom I enjoy in my career are exactly what I prayed for and dreamed about when I was a little girl and daily I count these blessings. I am right where I want to be right now. But then there may be other women who feel stuck in routines they want to get out of, but don’t know where to start and don’t know how. And to these women I would say, you are the capable creator of your life experience. If you desire to do more, be more and have more, your dreams are completely within your power to achieve.

Cara Alwill Leyba

You are called to really embrace and enjoy your life, and you are fully capable of creating and cultivating whatever that looks like for you. A great place to begin identifying your dream life is to carve out some peaceful time for just you. Maybe you go out to the park, maybe sit out on the porch, or maybe lock yourself in your bedroom with a lit candle and a cup of hot tea. Take a journal or piece of paper and ask yourself the following questions, “What would I love to do? What makes me happy? What would it take to go from where I am to where I want to be?” After writing each question, write down the first thing that comes to your mind, don’t over-think it and don’t judge it, just step into the moment of the process and go with what flows.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

Once you have identified your dream life, take some time everyday, even if it’s just five minutes, to visualize and really daydream about what that life would look like, what do you look like? What are you doing? What does a perfect day in your new life consist of? Really step into the FEELING of how amazing everything will be. Every morning ask yourself, “What is one new action step I can take today to get me closer to this dream?”


1. Identify what makes you happy, what you would love to do;

2. Visualize your perfect day and really step into how that makes you FEEL;

3. Take one new action everyday that will get you closer to your dream.

After you have consistently practiced this process for at least 30 days, let me know what positive shifts you have begun to experience. XOXO – LeNae.